So much so that many singles avoid dating altogether; in effect, choosing celibacy. Avoiding life's complications makes maintaining peace of mind comparatively easy, as the Dalai Lama suggests. But it takes more courage to embrace life completely. He consciously acknowledges his own sexual drives or urges, but chooses not to act upon them. (Though, except in extreme cases of compulsive sexuality, we, like the Dalai Lama, also exercise our will in limiting or restricting the expression of our libido. ' And the guy says, 'I would, but I need the eggs.' Well, I guess that's pretty much now how I feel about relationships.

Is it possible to have peace of mind without avoiding sex, love or marriage? Sitting on the mountaintop or monastery contemplating one's navel unperturbed by and detached from civilization and its discontents, free from constant carnal temptation, is one thing. Even the Dalai Lama cannot rise above all of life's inescapable little dramas and passion plays, as exemplified in his ongoing personal and political struggles with China regarding Tibetan independence.(See my prior post.) No one is immune. , the hypnotic power of illusion, cannot be completely resisted. That is part of his spiritual practice and training. See, for example, my prior post on promiscuity.) Despite all the complications and suffering this brings. They're totally irrational and crazy and absurd, but I guess we keep going through it because most of us need the eggs. Even when what we have to go through to get them is messy, complicated, destabilizing and distressing.

Playing the part of lover, boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. Sexual or romantic relationships can be essential to both personal and spiritual growth. But be aware that, when it comes to sex, there is a delicate balance between engagement and detachment, desire and addiction. Quoting (the psychotic Bipolar) Woody Allen is very disrespectful.

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If you just, you see, physically experience, then you sometimes—you may find a certain desire. And I told the married people, their mental state, their emotional state, too much ups and downs. But then thinking—thinking it's a real job, then feel, too much problem—(LAUGHTER)DALAI LAMA: Too much dirty things like that. Does the 14th Dalai Lama really think sex is "dirty"?

(LAUGHTER)DALAI LAMA: So, these, see, really, children suffer much when divorce, when parents divorce.

And psychotherapy can aid in keeping things in perspective and dealing with our daimonic emotions as constructively and consciously as possible.

(See my prior post.) Especially when paired together.

So sex is not necessarily detrimental or antithetical to spirituality. So how can the ordinary person cultivate peace of mind, serenity, psychological and emotional stability while at the same time being fully engaged in life's incessant drama?

Indeed, it could be argued that sex is an essential part of psychological, emotional and spiritual growth and development. The institution of marriage, monogamy and fidelity is one way society tries to keep things simple for people regarding sexuality. In what Nikos Kazantzakis' Zorba the Greek called "the full catastrophe"?

Marriage attempts to control and make sex simple: one has but one sexual partner and foresakes all others. But in practice, marriage is itself a complicated relationship, typically leading to children, in-laws, power struggles, financial conflict, etc. Might it even be possible that embracing sex, love and marriage could enhance mental and emotional stability? (See this PT post critiquing this presumed "marriage advantage.") Certainly, this was Freud's point.

This traditional arrangement simplifies matters significantly. And, in a majority of modern marriages, to disillusionment, cheating, animosity and divorce. Being single and dating is an equally complicated activity today, one which can engender significant anxiety, confusion, frustration and pain. Avoiding or repressing sexuality leads to neurosis, not mental stability. To his credit, he does not deny his own sexual impulses. We choose (or perhaps, more commonly, are compelled) to involve ourselves in romantic relationships, love and sex. Regarding romance, sex and love, Woody Allen in I thought of that old joke: This guy goes to a psychiatrist and says, 'Doc, my brother's crazy, he thinks he's a chicken.' And the doctor says, 'Well why don't you turn him in?

So how can the rest of us preserve our precious peace of mind without avoiding sex and sexual entanglement entirely? Not getting overly involved in life's messiness; remaining aloof and detached from life's passionate human drama.

This is a traditional approach to spiritual practice.

A Buddhist monk since boyhood, the Dalai Lama believes that sex offers fleeting satisfaction but leads to trouble and tribulation, while celibacy offers a better life and "more independence, more freedom." He has noted that problems arising from sexual relationships can, in some extreme cases, lead to suicide or murder.