And guys, before sending a message with even a hint of sexual innuendo, think about what your mother would say, then remember that many of these women mothers, for that matter.

This applies to women in particular, but not exclusively.

Are you looking for an occasional dinner companion, a friends-with-benefits arrangement or a marriage candidate? The more clarity and candor you can muster (within the boundaries of good taste), the better.

A few dating sites allow men and women to fire off a canned “Hey, there! Better to write your own greeting and show you actually looked at the person’s profile. That’s one of my favorite books, as well.” carries more weight and is more likely to get a response than a generic response.

According to the FBI, dating websites are often popular targets for scams perpetrated by offshore criminal networks.

While the bureau acknowledges that virtually everyone is at risk, it says Internet scammers pay particular attention to “women over 40 who are divorced, widowed, and/or disabled.” These cyber-criminals create elaborate profiles on singles sites, often with glamorous photos.

A common gripe shared by many women I met concerned the fellow who arrived at the meetup bearing little resemblance to the guy in the profile.

This advice applies to both sexes: Don’t post pictures of yourself from 10 years and/or 40 lbs. Don’t rave about your intense exercise regimen when you’re really a couch potato.Some were intent on finding another lifemate in short order, while others seemed more interested in sampling different personalities and lifestyles.A gripe shared by many women I met concerned the fellow who arrived at the meetup bearing little resemblance to the guy in the profile.The majority of women I spoke with said they refuse to acknowledge crude come-ons.Fortunately, most dating sites today are pretty well regulated, and the option usually exists to report inappropriate postings.Things were unfolding beautifully, from similar interests to shared acquaintances.