While it’s important that both people in a relationship are happy, they can easily lose sight of their personal well-being.The unspoken obligation to make one’s partner happy is ultimately self-damaging.Relationships offer a person the comfort of being with someone.

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When I was in my late 20’s, I worked in an office where two people fell in love and ended up getting married and very recently, having a baby. The guy eats Pop Tarts for breakfast every day and his socks smell. Things might get weird if he becomes your boss or you become his.

For them, dating each other regardless of their co-worker status was the right thing to do. It will suck to have to treat him like a colleague in staff meetings when all you want to do is jump on him and lick his face. Hopefully, you’ll still get butterflies despite this. There’s a good chance that this will send one of you off into the job market, searching for a new place of employment …

But what is dating if not a series of personal anxieties?

It doesn’t matter if you’re dating someone in your field.

They learn to compromise with other people and do what’s best for both parties.

High school dating gives an individual firsthand experience, which can prevent him or her from receiving unfair treatment in the future.

My take is that it’s limiting to have a strict “no dating in the workplace” policy because, well, what if? You don’t have to wonder whether he’s a womanizer (he’s come alone to the last five company Christmas parties) or a pathological liar because you know where it works. Best case scenario: it’s you and he’s happy for you and you can celebrate your successes together and money and status don’t become an issue. The person you’re dating works in the same building. Get ready for an awful lot of gossiping about weird co-workers and venting about clients on the weekends.

It’s better, instead, to look at the pros and cons of dating a co-worker so you can be prepared if you decided to go there. The person you’re dating works in the same building. You can bitch to him about what an ass your boss is and how much that proposal due next week is stressing you out and he’ll totally get it. Depending on your company’s policy’s, you might have to keep your romantic involvement a secret, which, let’s be honest, can be really HOT. You also don’t have to wonder if he keeps Pop Tarts in his desk or likes to take his shoes off when he’s in deep thought. If you get into a spat or worse, break up, you’ll have to see him every day — eating his stupid Pop Tarts, working with his shoes off, dating someone new — and it’s gonna be bitch.

Once I disentangled my feelings about my relationships from my feelings about my own work and career, I was more confident and could make clearer choices in both areas of my life.” I respect the point she makes, but I tend to think of the choice to date a co-worker as one made on a case-by-case basis depending on circumstances, career field (who would celebs date if they didn’t date each other?