Online dating for large women
I persuaded myself through cliches, “It’s a numbers game. Every lid has a teapot.” And with that 50 Fat Dates was born.Also, because plus size dating is a taboo, because so many big girls (including me) have been told they’re ‘too fat to date,’ because I wanted to find out what guys really think about dating plus size women and because I needed to put myself out there! Although based on the response I’m sure that would have been possible. I tried online dating, meetups, introductions, dating events, big girl night clubs, conferences, weddings, and networking mixers.
The only way this was going to happen was if I set myself a goal, a target or had a plan.
I started thinking it through, “What if I just did one date a week? “If I did that for a year I’d date 50 people.” That’s huge!
Dating as a polyamorous woman brings with it a lifetime's worth of misconceptions and jealousies.
Add a few extra layers of fat to that experience, and things can get depressing real fast.
Something happened via email yesterday morning that made me sort of snap! Total unconditional love and everyone should be loved as well as I have been loved. Could we maybe meet first before you start telling me all about your junk. How about we shake hands once or twice before we start talking about “bumping uglies.” I could go on and on. But, like I said, 95% of my experiences have been great.
This was after a very rude string of back and forth emails with someone very hate filled that I turned down for a date.It’s a plus size dating quest not a string of sweaty one night stands. I was also aiming for a cross section of men so I didn’t go after the same ‘type’ of guy I always dated.I’d been running my own plus size blog, Big Curvy Love, for years so it was a no brainer to chronicle the 50 dates. Yes, in my mind this was a real-life-romantic comedy in the making and I was for sure was going to have a legit ‘meet cute’ just like in the movies. How about a silver fox, toy boy, divorcee, single dad, white collar, blue collar, different cultures, ethnicity and religions.So all of my online profiles include some verbiage that I am NOT looking to hook up or for a booty call. Just a few tips from my friend who deals with this kind of bullying and threats a lot.And, I also say I am a very sassy, voluptuous woman and even use the word BBW and spell out “big beautiful woman.”) “Wanna fuck? Men that treated me like a goddess and that always made me feel beautiful and sexy. I have also had to have that awkward discussion with a couple of them ( “You’re really great. I am just right mother fu*ker.) ” I just love dating fat girls. I think maybe when you’re immature and in high school you are much more insecure. I have certainly had lots of mean shit said to me online by the fat shamers and the trolls (and now by these men that I denied a first date to). And, as I like to say “Unless I love you, I just don’t care about your opinion of me any way.” If you haven’t read my article for the Huffington Post called “Do Not Settle Curvy Girls” here is the link : a reminder from me that the people you surround yourself with should LIFT you up and bring you jog.