I totally understood why he had to cancel, but the situation also reminded me why he and I could never work and why I will never date a man with children again.

The Cop has two daughters and a demanding job, obviously.

You’re too young and cute for this title, and no one needs a complication like this in a relationship.

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How does a 56 year old man find a good younger woman that would be interested in marriage and willing to have children by him? Most good sites line me up with the 50 year olds and most 36 year olds tend to think I’m a dirty old man.

I know that such a person exists but can’t find a good avenue to find her. Thank you, Dale, for acknowledging a few very common truths from the world of online dating.

Recently, he and I made plans to have a friendly, totally platonic drink to celebrate my promotion.

He canceled the day of because his youngest daughter had hit her head and he’d spent the previous night in the emergency room.

I’ll be 42 in a couple of weeks, and in two years of online dating, I’d say about 70% of the people who write to me are fifty and over, often MUCH over.

I think the record so far is the 74-year-old who said he could have his daughter pick him up at the nursing home and bring him into the city if I were willing to meet for coffee. Your last line is telling, though, and hints at the broader trend. Unfortunately, it seems that all the men my age only want much younger women, which leaves me with the 20-somethings who think “MILF” is an appropriate subject line and write messages about being “into older women,” and the aforementioned geriatric (or borderline) set. If everyone is looking downstream, age-wise (except the few who have a “kink” for older types), where does that leave those of us who really are looking for a peer? Should I adjust my objectives to what the market has to offer?

The girls’ mother also had a demanding job, so she never seemed available to deal with her own children.

So this brings me to my first point: If you date a man with children, you can never expect to come first.

Now the breakup is even more difficult because there’s a third party involved.