• Honor your spouse’s wishes concerning your friendship —even if it means ending it.• Avoid establishing close friendships with opposite sex singles.• Demonstrate a God-honoring character in all your relationships.

That story is about my friendship with Rick (fake name, real experiences).

Rick and I met at a gathering hosted by my church back in college.

Instead, it is important to note that attractions to desires.

I was attracted to Rick, which led to the feeling, “I want to (blank).” The “I want to…” is the desire, not the initial noticing with pleasure.

Also, notice that I said attraction leads to , plural.

As I noticed Rick with pleasure, the attraction produced all sorts of “I want…” desires in me. No, I wasn’t immediately imagining what it would be like to be in bed with him, but the seed was present.

If you have ever wondered whether or not your close opposite-sex friendship poses a potential threat to your marriage take a few moments to answer the questions below. However, special consideration must be given to a number of factors that, if ignored, can potentially serve to threaten your marriage and seriously compromise your relationship with God.

Read each question and then quickly and honestly record the first answer that comes to mind. Is your spouse unaware of your opposite-sex friendship? Would you behave differently around your friend if your spouse were present? Would you feel uncomfortable if your spouse had the same quality of friendship with someone of the opposite sex? Do you prefer to spend time alone with your opposite-sex friend rather than in a group setting? Are you physically and/or emotionally attracted to your friend? Is your friend someone you would consider dating if you were single? Have you ever entertained romantic fantasies about your friend? If you desire to make or keep your marriage strong, here are some tips for managing opposite-sex friendships in your life.

• Avoid close opposite-sex friendships if you are struggling in your marriage relationship.