I ran down the partial list in my head and realized they were all there. As I began to observe his life and how he interacted with others, as well as how wonderfully he always treated me, I decided that there could really be something here.

As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. And now, after nearly four years of marriage I am so glad I followed God’s leading.

I’ve read many books about relationships and Christian dating. His views helped me establish my own standards regarding marriage.

I decided that I wanted nothing less than God’s best for me. It means if you have doubts about the relationship, if your significant other doesn’t treat you with the upmost respect, if you argue more than you get along, if you constantly find yourself defending him or her to your friends, then end it.

Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. It’s not that my husband and I never disagree, or that we do not get on each other’s nerves periodically, but married life is so much simpler when you know that this is the person that God led you to.

With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future.

It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.

We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way (although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me).

His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me.

For someone whose “love language” is spending quality time together, that was a major issue.

I believe that there are any number of people that we each could marry and make it work – and even be happy.

But I also believe that we will be happiest in marriage if we allow God to choose our mate for us.

Did those caring, sensitive, funny, godly men really exist?