As a nearby example, I’ve gotten some laughs out of some of the serial lesbian content on the sidebar here at Autostraddle, but I’m still waiting for a woman like me to show up on screen and join in the fun.

Also, it’s rather cliché at this point that mainstream lesbian-oriented content tends to show more interest in trans men’s stories (who are, after all, not women) than ours ( being the most obvious example).

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One of the awesome things about the queer women’s communities is that I think we tend to be much more open about possibilities for intimate relationships.

Some women are poly, some are looking for an exclusive partnership, and there’s everything in between.

And having one of those words appear in the middle of our dinner-date is, um, anti-climatic in just about every sense of the word.

And from a trans-feminist perspective, I would emphasize that what underlies trans-misogyny is nothing more than misogyny itself.

Look, I get that it takes some time to work some of these things out, but part of my point is just that making it clear you believe trans women should be included is a good step towards developing meaningful friendship with us.

On the contrary, referring to a bunch of dudes as a “sausage fest” might not be such a cool/sexy/romantic thing to do (regardless of anyone’s actual genital status… I realize there are a wide variety of trans narratives out there, and maybe it could seem like a lot to work through.This is completely false (and it makes no sense considering the word describes cis men just as it does cis women).The word “cis” means “not trans” and it has no other meaning in this context.Please adopt this language, even when trans people are not around.This should go without saying, but referring to trans women as “trannies” or “shemales” is not only ignorant, it’s adopting language that is associated with social stigmatization and even violence against trans women.), our common roots back in the States, and her background in performance art.